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How to Choose a Good Friend

Mary Smith
By Mary Smith. Updated: January 16, 2017
How to Choose a Good Friend

Good friends are not easy to find. Many people say that good friends are the family we choose. Friendship is a very important part of every human being, and this is because with friends we can experience all the good and bad parts of life. A great friendship is forever and surrounding yourself with the best of friends is a personal choice. Throughout life we get to know many people, but only a few are really cherished and irreplaceable. In this OneHowTo article we show you how to choose a good friend.

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It is normal to have friends throughout all stages of life: childhood, school, college, university, work, etc. Many of these people remain, others simply gradually disappear with every step forward. Usually our social network often increases as we get older and we extend our circles. It is also true that as we become adults and mature, we become more selective about classifying and defining the people who are our true friends.

How to Choose a Good Friend - Step 1

A good friend is someone who respects you and who takes your opinions into account. They will never humiliate and despise you. They will accept you as you are and you won't have to strive to impress them. They will love you the way you are and won't ask you to change to be anything else. They will love your skills as much as your weaknesses. A good friend will accept your personality for better or for worse, they can tell you honestly what they think but never to hurt you.

How to Choose a Good Friend - Step 2

A true friend will always listen to you and will care about what you think. They will take your feelings, emotions and opinions into account. Best friends are interested in what happens in your life and feel enriched with every conversation you have. Another feature of a good friend is that they should be be someone you can trust. They will never judge you and keep your intimate secrets safe. They will never share anything personal about you with others. With a friend like this, you will always feel safe sharing any aspect of your life however old it is. To choose a good friend, look for these signs in people.

How to Choose a Good Friend - Step 3

When you choose a good friend they should be honest and sincere. They will never deceive or take advantage of you. Moreover, they openly recognize your accomplishments and won't crush you emotionally with your failures. Good friends always support you in all kinds of situations that are hard. They will be at your side sharing your achievements, but also your problems.

A good recommendation to surround yourself with good friends is to choose people who you admire or you want to be like. Friends influence each other and this is a fact, the more time you spend with someone, their positive characteristics can end up rubbing off on you.


A final tip that we can give you is to learn from your previous friendships. If you had a bad experience with other friends, think about these relationships and reflect on what went wrong. Surely you will come to some important conclusions, remind yourself about the negative characteristics of these people. If you notice these features, it's probably not a good idea for you to make friends with similar people. In the following article you can see some tips on how to identify a fake friend.

How to Choose a Good Friend - Step 5

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Sarabjeet singh
not easy to judge anyone
but we find people at every turn in life and some try to be friendly andd some firstly recognise us very patiently.. then how we come to know about people who are going to be our friends

1. Body language and words must be matched still a few persons are very wisely turns down mind it

2. be faithful with yourself first then choose with the true help of parents

3. choosing friends must bee taken care of your own grooming and interest areas too.
in this area your are to be very wise in the real world..

4. concentrate on work better to be groom as a good person dont indulge yourself in extra talk and take personal and professional life seperately....
sarabjeet singh
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Thanks for the input, Sarabjeet!
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