Dreaming About an Ex and Their New Partner
Understanding dreams or figuring out exactly what a dream means is incredibly difficult. The brain is one of the most complex human organs. This complexity becomes even more multifaceted when we try to understand the happenings of our subconscious minds. In psychology, the subconscious is an area of the brain in which dreams are located. This part of the mind influences many of our actions, thoughts and feelings, but most of the time we are unaware of its power. Various sciences, from psychology or psychiatry to Western esotericism, try, through different types of analysis, to decipher what dreams mean in relation to specific objects, people or situations. The main question that arises form this all is, what does my dream mean?
The fact of the matter is, figuring out the EXACT meaning of a dream is somewhat impossible. But, if the subconscious is a mirror of ourselves, then surely our dreams must hold some distinguishable meaning? Analyzing dreams is just one way of making sense of what our subconscious is trying to tell us. So, if you are wondering ‘‘Why am I dreaming about an ex and their new partner?’’ We here at OneHOWTO have decided to help you find an answer to this commonly asked question.
Why do I dream about my ex?
Dreaming about an ex is incredibly common. As we all know, an ex is someone with whom we hold a lot of shared feelings and experiences and it’s normal to think of them. Although, even though it may seem like a lot of time has passed since breaking up with your ex, it’s normal that their presence may manifest in your dreams.
If you are dreaming about an ex it doesn’t mean you should contact them. Sure, a lot of the time people dream of their exes due to unsolved conflict and in this case, sometimes speaking to them may help. But only you will know if this conversation is necessary. If you are aware that there is something you’ve always wanted to tell or share with your ex, maybe your subconscious is trying to push you in that direction? Sometimes solving a situation is the best way to leave it in the past. Despite what your specific situation may be, we always recommend doing ONLY what makes you feel comfortable.
For more, we recommend reading our article about how to deal with a break up.
Seeing your ex with someone else in a dream
Are you seeing your ex with someone else in a dream? The presence of your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend in your dreams can occur in infinitely different ways, as can the situations that develop. This type of dream can be interpreted in the following ways:
- A moment of change: if your dreaming about an ex and a new partner it may be a sign that your subconscious is going through the motions, slowly helping you to accept the reality of the situation; that your ex has moved on. If you are struggling to accept you ex being with someone else, just know that it is just a phase and you will eventually get over it.
- Dare to start a new relationship: at this time, the question needs to be asked, are you starting a relationship with someone else and are scared? In this case, it is common to dream about an ex and their new partner. Maybe you’re afraid of failing or repeating the same mistakes or patterns of the past. If this sounds familiar, we recommend that, if you want to be happy, you have to take a chance.
- Focus on yourself: Often when dreaming about an ex with a new partner, it’s a way that our subconscious is reflecting our own self-esteem. It is possible that this dream is borne of a feeling of guilt and failure that weighs on your previous relationship. Overthinking is a common culprit of why we dream of an ex partner with their new partner. If you are thinking, is she doing this that I didn’t do? He is taking her to parks because I know she loves them, I should have done that... then you need to STOP! Negative overthinking is a sign that it is time to focus on yourself. Your past relationship has nothing to do with your ex and his/her new partner, or vice versa. Therefore, there is no point comparing the two.
For more, we recommend reading our article where we discuss how to be happy after a breakup.
How to stop dreaming about your ex
If you want your ex's presence to disappear from your dreams once and for all, you will have to work on yourself and your own mind. First of all, stop thinking about the past and look to the future and all of the wonderful opportunities it has to offer you!
If you already know that your ex was not the right person for you and self-esteem is not the problem, try not think of him/her. Every time they pop into your mind, think of something else. Sure, in reality it’s more difficult that it sounds, but over time it will become easier. In this case, we recommend cutting contact with your ex and focusing, again, on yourself.
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