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How to Identify a Fake Friend

Mary Smith
By Mary Smith. Updated: August 11, 2017
How to Identify a Fake Friend
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Many people have problems to detect when someone's intentions are sincere or not, leading to them often ending up disappointed with the world around them as they discover that many fake people move encouraged by their own self interest. Friendship is not built easily and it requires a lot of respect and affection to accept others as they are and to love them in spite of everything. If things are not like this then what is the purpose? In oneHOWTO we give you the keys so you know how to identify a fake friend and get him or her out of your life, as it is better to be alone than in bad company.

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Steps to follow:


Creating a solid friendship takes a long time, when someone overnight aims to be your closest friend you should view them with caution. As is the case of intimacy, trust and respect are earned slowly and not given away. Fake people tend to act as if they were your friends the minute you meet them, so be aware!


One of the easiest ways to identify a fake friend is to notice when they appear in your life: if you are well, happy, living a good moment they will be there for you to share in your laughter and fun, but when you have a problem, when the situation does not look so encouraging, this 'friend' simply disappears. Fake people just want to be present in the good times.

How to Identify a Fake Friend - Step 2

A false friend is one who is opinionated about your life (whether personal or professional) with an ill intention. They will not miss a chance to highlight your mistakes, tell you that you have failed and make you feel bad; this is because somehow they will rejoice in your failures. Fake people on care about themselves, which is why they may benefit from either praising you or making you look like dirt in front of others.


A good friend tells you what they think about you to your face and not talk behind your back. If you know that this person lives criticizing you to others but has never had the courage to tell you these things to your face we can guarantee that this person is not good company.

How to Identify a Fake Friend - Step 4

Friendship implies respect, if a person constantly puts you down and makes you feel bad, they do not respect your opinions or decisions they are not a good friend or even good company for partying, so the best approach is to limit contact with them.


Also avoid giving space to other negative personalities which constantly see the bad side of everything that you do, fake people are envious and want to have what you have and gnaw at your success or people who are intrusive and do nothing but stick their nose into your affairs without you asking them.


If your friend is making you feel guilty because you don't hang out any more, or expects you to drop everything else because he or she needs something in particular, then you are probably dealing with a false friend.


Pay attention to your intuition, we often suspect that someone is not a good person and therefore a bad friend but we lack the courage to end the relationship. If you think that someone is of no benefit to you and it would be better if there were some distance between you then avoid becoming close to that person. Fake people will usually come begging for attention, so be weary of them if you notice they want to approach you for strange reasons that don't match.

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Recently I got into a fight with a couple friends because they believed that I talked about them behind their back and they were saying how their trust wasn't given to me because I take photos and I deleted any and every photo they were uncomfortable with. I wasn't mad about it because I felt that it was something I could take and use to help me change for the better- but i was upset because they not only trusted unclear and impossible information, but because this was brought up to me 2 days after they "found out." I felt understanding to them and I let them have time to ease their way to being my friend again and I took that time to work on my mental health. However, one of our friends who wasn't in that drama told me that one of the girls that I had to deal with from that situation was talking about me and how "poor" a present I got her and the gift was thought out and I thought it was something she would have liked- Not to mention expensive and I felt hurt and betrayed, but they said I shouldn't be angry because I did the same when we had cleared it u and I was found to be not guilty of doing such action- am I wrong to feel upset that they are being so hypocritical?
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Hi Paige,

It is definitely not wrong to get upset if they are being hypocritical. We can't speak for your friends, but from the information you provide it sounds like they are being quite shallow and immature. If they don't like photos you have taken of them, it will also probably be down to their own insecurity.

It can be tricky with social media if we post photos of our friends. Since we are all so used to taking our own phot hundreds of times until we get it just right, when other people take photos of us, they are not the perfect idea we have in our minds. That's not your fault and not something you should be berated for, especially if you are not their official photographer. If you had an arrangement which you have gone back on, that's a different story.

In regards to the present, it's the thought that counts. They don't have to like it, they can even politely say they won't use it and you can take it back/refund it. Otherwise they are being entitled and it's up to you whether you want to make the effort to maintain friendships with people like this.
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